Those that have given up Facebook

I recently saw an article about people who have stopped using Facebook. I am not entirely there yet but am definitely on that path as many others are. One of the things I noticed was that every point raised, which incidentally came from a different person rang very true to me and I wanted to share some of it with you.

Before I do I would like to say think about why you use social media. The instant reaction you may give is to stay in touch with people but a lot of those that gave me that response eventually conceded they wanted attention or to show others they have a life. Now I’m not saying social media is all bad. I use it myself. However I think it’s more important to make sure it’s not a substitute for real life and definitely not a means to get attention. 

 If you would like to read the full story, you can do so HERE. But here are 10 reason’s why those interviewed “Don’t regret quitting Facebook”. These are not the entire responses just parts. 

1.     To be more productive.

"If one were to add up the vast amount of time I've generally pissed away on the site, we'd easily see that I could've written a book, started a business, or done any number of things that resulted in producing something meaningful. Instead, it's all been one giant attempt to incite thumbs up from people I mostly don't see in real life while putting dollars in the pocket of an already outstandingly rich dude," she wrote.


2. To spend time with real friends

"Most of my Facebook friends aren't (actually friends). They're not enemies. It's not that I wish them ill, but for the majority of them, there's a reason we don't associate other than on Facebook. For most, it's not because of a geographic disparity or because they don't have an email address or phone number - it's because we're simply not actual … friends," he wrote. 


3. To prioritise

"At the end of the day, it comes down to this for me: Am I spending all the time I should be spending on my most important relationships?” 


4. To enjoy the present

"But it's what I've actually enjoyed about being off of Facebook that has surprised me most. I spend less time on my computer without Facebook's source of infinite content," 

"During real life experiences, what is or isn't worth sharing on Facebook no longer lingers in the back of my mind, so I spend more time simply enjoying the present.  


5. To reclaim privacy

"Ultimately, Facebook is changing the human race. People think, speak and live in status updates. We have become short spurts of witty commentary. It's becoming increasingly difficult to truly connect with a person, rather than just their online character. We are all becoming narcissists," 


6. To avoid exploitation

"Facebook has never been merely a social platform. Rather, it exploits our social interactions the way a Tupperware party does," 

"Facebook does not exist to help us make friends, but to turn our network of connections, brand preferences and activities over time - our "social graphs" -- into money for others. 


7. To do something interesting

Lucy Kippist says Facebook was making her bored and judgmental.

"With the benefit of a couple of weeks off Facebook I started to realise that just like anything addictive - after a few days without it, you don't really miss it that much," 

"That said life without Facebook has been pretty good for me. I have found myself emailing people more often and have even picked up the phone for a chat. Before I decided to quit, I would have just sent a Facebook message -or been content to scroll through that person's status update to feel caught up. 


8. To connect the old-fashioned way

He's Just Not That Into You star Justin Long just isn't that into Facebook, 

"I tried to use Facebook at one point for a couple months to keep in touch, but I realised there's like a thing about just friendship in general. There's a reason why you don't keep in touch, "he said.

"I have a couple friends from high school that I still call them on the phone, which is really old fashioned and weird.” 


9. To free yourself from technology

After quitting Facebook Duke University Buddhist chaplain Sumi Loundon Kim also quit texting, mobile email, chat, and neurotically clicking over to the Gmail inbox.

"The first few hours after closing my Facebook page were mind-bending. My husband went onto his account to see if any trace of Sumi Loundon Kim remained. Nothing. For a few minutes, I felt like I no longer existed. It was freaky and liberating at the same time," 

"It felt so good, in fact, that a few days later I disabled Google chat in my Gmail account because my eyes would constantly flicker over to the box to see who was online. I noticed how often I checked email on my cell, so I removed that function. A month later, I changed the texting aspect of my mobile-phone plan and now only use it for immediate, necessary transactions.

"As I'm letting go of the alternate reality of the online world, I find myself much more attuned to actual reality. I am more interested in the people right in front of me because I am not half-attending to the virtual people online.” 


10. To live your own life

Monique Minahan says ignorance is bliss

"Really. That's what I've learned since limiting my personal social media," she wrote.

"Biggest reason for the change: I was wasting a lot of time