Racist Dating

I recently saw an article on a mainstream media site discussing that studies or analysis of dating sites shows that Asian woman are highly regarded by Non-Asian men in terms of dating, however Asian men are not sought after by Non-Asian women. I’m sure that doesn’t surprise people based on the fact that Asian men have stereotype problems. After all Asian men are portrayed in media as either nerds (involved in professions like accounting and I.T) or they are portrayed as villains. The only other stereotype we see in movies is the martial artist. So is this to blame. Are women simply not attracted to Asian men or is it the superficial stereotype that they don’t have much to offer below the belt? A report on intermarriage in Australia conducted by Monash University using data from the 2006 Census confirms this trend. Its authors found higher rates of intermarriage for women than men in all of the East Asian and South-east Asian birthplace groups.
The other factor that was raised in the article was that there is a belief out there that Asian men are passive and lack emotion which comes again from the portrayal of them in the media. In the gay world it appears to be slightly different although that could be my perception. I do hear a lot of Asian men stating that when looking for someone that there are a lot of personals adverts and the like that state ‘no asians please’ so maybe the same issues are rife in the gay world. 

For me I personally have dated Asian men and in many respects find them great. I have a natural attraction to gay men however it’s only one type as such and have probably in the past dated more Non-Asians. My own experience is there are good and bad experiences exactly as it has been when I have dated Non-Asians. the only thing I can say is usually the issues I have had are different from those I experienced with Non-Asians. So in my view there is no difference with the exception of a few more positives with Asian men. So I think it is less about stereotypes and more about who you are attracted to. 

Everyone in this world for whatever reasons finds certain things attractive in others. Those things may be initially a physical thing and then personality traits. It’s unfortunate that Asian men have more difficulty when wanting to date outside of their race but I’m not sure what the cause is. What I do know is that this report did surprise me, but that comes from my own belief that Asian men are beautiful and I guess this just means whether straight or gay that for Asian men, when you do find someone that is interested in you that it means you will find someone that truly wants you.