Stop Pretending!


Sometimes I think I am just crazy. I know that the person I am sometimes doesn’t fit into the world around me. A lot of the time I don’t understand the actions of many people. Whether it be at work where i don’t understand people that don’t have work ethic, to the gay world where I don’t understand people most of the time. 

Seriously, take a look at the gay world and you see so many unhappy people. They usually in one breath say they are wanting a partner but every action screams the opposite. I know there are some people out there who don’t want a relationship and that is fine, but when you see someone who does but they are going about it all the wrong way it raises the question what the hell are they doing.

Let me make this clearer. I’m speaking about the gay world because that’s the one I see but I’m sure it happens outside as well. I see a lot of guys who you can see are really wanting a partner in their lives, but all they do is either party or sleep around. I’m a firm believer that if you are looking for something in your life you have to project the image of what you want. If you want a stable relationship then don’t project that you sleep around and spend all your time drinking. You will just attract other guys like that and that’s not really the quality you are saying you want.

Don’t misunderstand, I don’t think anything bad because I’m one of those people that basically think people are good and most strange behaviour either comes from learned behaviour or fear. But I see people that I consider good people out there who really should have loving partners or deserve loving partners who you can see below the surface are unhappy, yet they are out there sleeping around so much that really, a decent guy isn’t going to even look there. You can turn around and say that you don’t project that image to prospective partners but in the end it will come out. Don’t pretend you don’t do those things, simply don’t. You have to live in a way that will attract the right kind of people.

This issue goes much deeper and doesn’t only affect their search for a partner. It will also affect the quality of friends in their lives. Let’s face it, the world knows all thanks to Facebook. Think carefully about the image you project. You now have to make huge decisions not only about who you are in the real world, but who you are in a virtual sense.

Anyway, the point being that you need to think very carefully about what you want in your life and then look inward at whether you are doing what is necessary to attract that into your life. The key is be honest with yourself.