It’s not often I talk about my private life but being that it’s Valentine’s Day today, I thought it was an opportunity for a public declaration.

Over the years I have been in a couple of long term relationships. Even though they didn’t last I know without them I probably wouldn’t be where I am or who I am today. Without them I wouldn’t be in the relationship I am in now with the most incredible person I have ever known.

After the betrayal of my previous long term relationship I sat down and started to look at the trends. I could see that there was a pattern with the kind of people I had been with. They all had issues, ranging from mental health issues to high level ASD, which brings along it’s own set of challenges. None of these things phased me as when you are with someone you deal with whatever comes with it as long as there is self awareness there.

Anyway, after analysing I realised that my past was full of people that required looking after in some way. At this point I was tired, very tired and knew I had to change myself and if I was ever going to be in a relationship again I needed to change “my type” and open myself up to new people.

I did, and I did and it turned out incredible. I came across someone who has the same values and beliefs in relationships that I do. I found someone who really wanted to build a life with someone and he had all the qualities that I genuinely looked for in someone. The difference to my past relationships was that he actually had those qualities and not just said he did. I could actually recognise the qualitites where in the past I sort of accepted what I was told.

So I would like to send this message to him.

You came into my life about a year ago and in that time I have come to realise that you were the missing piece to the puzzle in my life. You have shown me what a relationship really is and that it can be filled with the love that does last a life time and beyond.

When we came together I feel we both just knew that this was going to be it and I know that we are already building a life and a future together. With this I just want to say how much I love you and how much you mean to me. I love you and look forward to the rest of our lives together.