In recent times I have been receiving a number of emails about relationship breakdowns, well not exactly breakdowns but rather bizarre behaviour by their friends and partners. What I mean is that I usually hear from people who are confused by the people around them.

They are usually people who have a belief that when you are in a relationship that you do everything possible to nurture that relationship and build it. However what I am hearing is there is a growing disdain for relationships. More people in their groups are talking about either not getting into a relationship at all or alternatively talking about relationships as short term events rather than long term ones.

I have written about this before and although I understand that people have preferences it does seem that this short term view is becoming more popular. I am not going to condemn this because I believe that everyone is different and what works for one doesn’t work for all. Those that have contacted me seem to generally be frustrated because they can’t seem to find someone who shares their view of relationships.

My only advise is really that it can sometimes seem difficult to find someone to be with but in my experience it happens when you least expect it. Remember that everyone is different and as long as you are upfront with the person that you want to date and they are upfront with you, that’s all you can really do. Don’t be disheartened because there are a lot of great people out there who do share your vision. It just seems to me that a lot of the time they just don’t appear in the forefront because they are getting on with their lives. I have found that we mainly see those people that are out there and in our face and a lot of the time they are just a small fraction of available people.

Just stay patient and remember that you are probably not going to find someone that shares your viewpoint at a club or other scene event. If you are genuinely looking for someone just let it happen. You probably hear the ‘be patient’ thing a lot but it is true. Stand by your convictions and don’t settle for less. Good people are out there and you may just have to work through a couple bad ones to get there but it is worth it.