Suicide Hopelessness

With the recent revelations that missing 13 year old Declan Crouch committed suicide. I'm not sure whether this will turn out to be the coroners final determination but it's still a horrible thought. Throughout the roughly two months he was missing the media thought he was just a missing person. But in this latest revelation it really is a strange end. Why someone so young would kill themselves is a difficult thing to come to terms with. 


It was strange because yesterday I happen to have peen listening to my random podcasts which are varied and two of them turned out to be about this topic. The day before I was presented with a study on gay & lesbian youth and suicide was a big player in that topic. Then suicide was back in the news with reports that show that Queensland has the highest rate of suicide among males in Australia. 

Suicide is a topic that really concerns me. I work in an area where suicide is a daily reality, and it's never something that is easy to understand. Personally I have an interest in the gay and lesbian area and want to get involved in issues that surround in particular youth. The one thing that I am certain of is that self esteem and a feeling of being alone are two of the primary things that lead to suicide. 

I have spoken to a lot of people about this topic and there is so many who actually want to help but are frustrated when they can't find out how. It seems that in general people want to do something but just can't find ways to do it. There are some organisations out there that do a great job in their area such as Beyond Blue, Open Doors and similar but there seems to not be a lot. I think one of the frustrating parts of this is not the services that are already there but more how to get to those people at risk. I don't have the answers but I do endeavour to work on this. I am talking with organisations at the moment to work out the highest areas of need and what I can do so we will continue on this path. 

It would be great to know what others are doing in this area and what has worked. Again I don't have the answers but am determined to make a difference. Look for the signs in those around you. I am not the expert so check out the web and learn as much as you can. 

Mommy, am I a boy or girl?


“Kathy Witterick and David Stocker say their baby should be able to develop its own sexual identity without having to conform to social stereotypes or bow to pre-determined expectations associated with gender.” 

For anyone living under a rock at the moment you may not have heard about this story, but the couple have decided not to tell anyone whether their newborn is a boy or girl biologically because they want it to work it out for itself.

The world appears to be split on this story, many applauding the decision and then on the other side many disagreeing. For me as a gay man, many would expect me to support what this family is doing. However I don’t!

I agree with the principle behind what they are doing which is to prevent stereotypes dictating the way their child grows up. However I think the way they are going about it is not only wrong but could potentially lead to an extremely confused child.

To begin with we are born either male or female physically and that is a given. Therefore I see nothing wrong with a child being labelled as male or female. I believe not going along with this will lead to a child growing up confused. This child will be asking questions at a young age that will cause confusion.

I have no problem with a child being raised to develop it’s own identity. Gender roles are wrong and I believe strongly a child should be given every opportunity to flourish in whatever way it decides whether that be boy, girl or otherwise however I feel that the way they are going about it is actually pushing their child into another box, that of ambiguity or androgyny. It is wrong to push your child in any direction but saying that you are doing it so that the child can chose it’s own sex will just lead to a child that is more confused than ever.

I will be interested to follow this family up in 20 years and see how it all worked out.


Dr Phil fail