Is Social Media an Addiction

Increasingly we are witnessing a large amount of research that points to the addictive nature of social media. Now of course this makes sense but it's not all bad news. 

There is an increasing number of young people leaving social media. It appears that when asked these people say that they either found it stressing them out or that they found themselves neglecting the real world and those they care about in real life. This doesn't surprise me as whether we like to admit it or not younger people are more likely to recognise these signs and to do something about it. 

A study I was reading stated that of course social media can be addictive like anything else in life can. Just because you are not an incessant poster doesn't mean you are not addicted. Some signs to look out for are being anxious when you haven't been on in a while, the need to "just check" your Facebook when you should be focussed on something else, the need to look at every alert or notification as soon as they appear, responding or checking your phone during a meal. These are only a few. It also discussed those who claim that that being on social media relaxes them.  This is highly unlikely as sites such as FB have been proven to cause stress through the shear volume of information. It gave the example that if you asked a drug addict or alcoholic why they drink, they will say it helps them relax or escape. Sounds familiar doesn't it. 

That doesn't mean that it's all bad it just means that you need to teach yourself how to control it. It is really entertainment, so treat it as such. If something or someone really needs you they will ring, put your phone where you can't see it at night and put it on Do Not Disturb, as many phones will allow phone calls in from people you have placed on your Favourites list. Make sure you are not looking at your phone every time you get a notification or alert. So put your phone or tablet away and concentrate on connecting to those you love and those who truly value you in real life. 

Remember what is important and what is truly urgent. Give yourself time to reply to messages but allocate a time or times each day to do this. People need to learn that you don't always have your phone next to you and that you will get back to them when you choose and not instantly. Otherwise it will become expected. 

The Future

I just wanted to write this brief note to let you all know that I will be continuing this site. It will continue to provide my favourite pics, commentary and stories about what is going on in my life. 

I think what got lost in my site was over time people I knew started following and although in most cases this was all good, in some cases I felt it was a situation where I had to start censoring some of my life because of possible repercussions or simply my words being interpreted the wrong way. I am trying to work out how best to deal with this. It has been a while since I wrote so many people have dropped off. I may limit the reposting to Twitter and Tumblr as I'm not a fan of FB. So if you stay up to date through FB I would suggest you either follow me on Twitter or add my blog to an RSS feed. 

Stay tuned and I will write very soon. 

Facebook - Real Name Policy

There seems to be a huge amount of publicity around the real name policy with FB. 

I have been reading up on this and it doesn't matter which side of the argument you sit on there are some compelling stances. The picture attached shows some of the arguments against the policy. 

I am going to take a different view and say 'I don't care'. I know this is probably an unpopular view but in the end it's a free site that people use. If you don't like the policy switch off. There is a growing amount of evidence that FB is being used less anyway as people are looking to other quick and easy streams such as Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter anyway. 

If you have a professional persona then you can always use 'Pages' to promote yourself. If you have been harassed, stalked etc then maybe it's time to switch off FB. If you are desperate to use FB because the world will end if you don't then simply utilise the privacy settings. In fact you can completely hide your FB profile from the world if you so wish. This way you can just add the people you want to add to stay in touch. Otherwise there are other more private platforms out there you can find to communicate. 

If you are after anonymity than FB or any form of posting on the web is crazy. After all these years we should have learned that privacy ultimately doesn't exist online. Maybe it is time to reassess priorities and look more closely at what is important in life.  

Marriage Equality Games

In Australia at the moment we are the closest we have ever been to seeing Marriage Equality introduced. The issue at the moment is that a Bill has been introduced by the Labor Party who allows it's members a conscience vote. However the Liberal Party do not and have decided to drag this issue on. 

Tony Abbott, keeps saying that yes it's an important issue but we won't deal with it until the budget measures are resolved. Personally this is something I find insulting. I know that irrelevant of the situation now, that there is a high chance that by the end of the year Marriage Equality will be law. My issue is that Tony Abbott is really just treating everyone as idiots. Firstly there is no reason that they can't deal with the budget and marriage issue at the same time and secondly it still devalues the issue of equality. 

Ideally Tony Abbott should just allow his party to conscience vote and this could proceed swiftly without issue. His arguments about this needing to be a bipartisan issue is correct but he is the reason it isn't through his inability to deal with it now. By making statements such as he is, he is really just trying to control the issue himself. We all know that Tony Abbott himself doesn't support Marriage Equality but that really is irrelevant and by procrastinating he just makes himself look stupid. 

For me looking at how Marriage Equality in this country has unfolded really means at this point that no matter whether it is introduced soon or not, the Liberal Party and Tony Abbott will go down in history not as the party who made it happen but as the party who dragged it on. Australia should have been at the forefront of this issue and one of the first to introduce it but now Australia is a joke and this is just another reason this country is looking worse and worse in the eyes of the world.