I know I have been away from blogging for a long time but I will talk more about that in the future, no drama just been flat out busy. 

Last night the Australian Federal Government handed down a budget. I have been reading s lot of articles particularly about us childless taxpayers and that we didn't and never get anything in the budget's. generally most comments are self serving and don't achieve much and there is never going to be a way to make everyone happy. 

For me, I don't expect anything. Yes I come from a double income couple although one of us is trying to get a small business off the ground and we did I guess receive a small tax break. 

However I do understand people's frustrations at the money that gets dished out to families. Not entirely, I am happy that money goes to education, hospitals, research etc. I also understand that it is the children who will keep the country moving into the future. 

There are good and bad in everything. Yes over the years there have been plenty of areas I have disagreed with. I never supported baby bonuses which basically paid people to have children. However I did support a level of paid parental leave to a point. 

I am undecided about subsidised child care and am yet to form an opinion. I do think we sometimes fork out too much money for people to have children but I do want to support their education. Maybe the answer is to cap payments to families not just based on income but also limit government payments to only the first two children. I don't think it's fair for taxpayers to pay for someone who has large numbers of children to be paid welfare. 

I also see that it is now we have huge gaps in the employment market, either from jobs that Australian's don't want to do or we don't have enough qualified people to do them. I would like to see funds put into attracting skilled migrants to this country. That may have people up in arms but I see it as a key area. I see regional towns suffering because for example they have a meatworks but can't get anyone to work them. We have a shortage of doctors and other professionals. So encourage skilled migration through both funding and where possible and safe don't make it so hard to transfer qualifications internationally. 

I think some Australian's do have a sense of entitlement but unfortunately until the government trully makes welfare a safety net and starts to change community perceptions it will not change. We do have an employment system that makes it very easy to just do nothing. Just speak to those who work in the industry and you will hear how easy it is to avoid work and avoid the requirements such as Work for the Dole etc. 

I believe politics plays a large part in this. Our political system makes it very hard for our leaders to do what is right simply because in Australia there is a three years term. So once a party gets into power and they start implementing the policies they campaigned on, you are in your second year and starting to think about the next election. There isn't a lot of time to make hard decisions without the thought of will this cost us the next election in the forefront. 

There are lots of points that I could raise but in the end I think we need political and societal change to really make this country prosper and to be honest I'm not sure it will happen. I would like to think that we can all stop only thinking of ourselves and start to think of the bigger picture. 

Personal Responsibility

Something that I have always wondered is why many people don't take responsibility for their own actions and negative behaviour. 

Before I go on I should point out that this post isn't from a recent personal experience and has come from an article I recently read which also reminded me of someone from my distant past. 

I am first to understand people that have had abusive or terrible childhoods and or difficult situations and can completely understand that who they are is in part moulded by that. That is one of the reason the justice system takes some of these things into account. I am talking about people who like to seem blameless in their lives yet go around blaming others for their behaviour, their situation or simply because they feel like it. These are the people who have an excuse for everything. They are the ones who don't seem to want to get on with life. They are the ones who seem to blame someone else for every failing in their lives instead of looking at themselves. Instead they gravitate towards anyone who will just believe everything that comes out of their mouths and never challenge them. 

I believe there comes a time in someones life where you just have to go, I am an adult and I need to take responsibility for my own life. I have had personal experience with this as I know someone from my past who I haven't even spoken to in 5-6 years who I know to this day still likes to blame me for just about every part of his screwed up life. Unfortunately it's more sad then anything else because I actually cared about this person and yet he can't see that and can't look at himself to see how his behaviour impacted on me during that time. 

All I can say is that I hold no bad feelings about this person and even though they cheated and lied there will always be a part of me that cares because I can see the person that could have been. Either way this isn't an uncommon scenario and I think more and more in the world people like to make excuses for their behaviour. 

I don't understand it because all that happens is they end up miserable. Look to the future in life because it's up to you how it goes. You shape your future so make it a positive one. 



To Talk or Not to Talk

If I look back at my breakup it is obvious this has been the hardest breakup I have been through. I guess that is due to the fact that I have never loved someone like I loved him. 

We all deal with things in different ways. My ex for example suppresses everything and won't talk about anything unless he knows he will get absolute reinforcement. This method probably has more to do with fear than anything else.  He has never been someone who can look at himself and will do just about anything to avoid it. 

I have found that I don't like talking about my struggles either, except with people that I know will tell me the truth. Throughout my struggles when someone tries to be kind and talk about what I'm going through I tend to shy away from the discussion because I don't want to hear people telling me I have been wronged. I already know that. I have found two friends who I talk to about things. The reason I trust them is that they know both of us and can be objective. 

What I love about these friends is they are not afraid to tell me what they really think even if it's negative about me or stuff I don't want to hear. They are completely objective. Yes I need to vent but I also don't like people that just tell me what they think will make me feel better or try to tell me what they assume I want to hear. These are not friends. A true friend tells the truth and I appreciate that. 

I believe these experiences, even though most people go through them are still unique to the individual. We are human and all feel alone to some degree when we go through them. The key is to know people we trust are there for us. I would hate to have been in a situation where no one talked to me about it. I am so grateful that I have people to talk to. 

There are a lot of things that have influenced the events around this split including personalities, weakness, manipulative family and confusion. Over time directly or indirectly I will talk about some of these things but as I have said this is for my own record and to assist me move on. So for a while if you don't want to hear these things then don't read. 

I will add that I have absolute faith that the future will be bright. I have always believed that I deserve someone who loves me 100%. I deserve someone who doesn't sit back and make excuses. Someone who takes responsibility for themselves and tries to be a better person. However to get to that point I need to completely process and allow myself to heal. There are some tough decisions that need to be made but in the end I need to look after myself. That is hard for me because I am always considering others. But time will heal.